In today’s American society, with approximately 52% of marriages ending in divorce, it is a given that you will encounter a friend or family member who has become an inhabitant of that niche of humanity. It may even be you.
In most cases the children are awarded to the wife or there is joint custody. Depending on the reasons for the divorce and the personalities of the separated partners, the father is often the one who is on the short end of the stick. (I am not a man, by the way.)
As a Facilitator for a Divorced/Separated/Widowed, Support Group I know from whence I speak. Those who do not make a plan to move away from the anger and resentment can end up in harming their children by the constant bickering and sniping at each other. This is called emotional immaturity. Some go to the extent to try to “win” the children’s affections away from the parent who is not present…Similar to children who say, “Na, na, he likes me more than you!”
I think they call that childish behavior.
It is always refreshing to see a parent who in spite of the odds goes the extra mile to continue demonstrating love for his or her children, regardless of who spends the most time with them.
I recently had a conversation with Jeff Herring, extremely successful, Internet
Business/Writing Guru, who is a divorced father of two sons, 5 and 12. He has been divorced for a year and a half.
Knowing that he had just moved from Tallahassee, Fla. I asked him, “Did you move from Florida to Atlanta, Ga. because of the business prospects or to be closer to your children?”
He said, “I was very settled in Tallahassee with a great practice and thought I would never leave. Then my ex moved north of Atlanta with the boys, so I was going to move up there no matter what, even if I had to be a greeter at Wal-Mart. All of the incredible business opportunities, including the relationship radio show, occurred after I was in the 8 month process of moving up here.”